CFCC case scenario 3
Shonda, is a new staff member at CFCC. On her first day, four coworkers (including you) decide to have lunch out together to welcome her.
The waiter is very friendly and brings Shonda an appetizer on the house. She spots the photos of Shonda’s three teenage kids on her phone’s screensaver and says, “Wow, those yours?”
Shonda laughs and says, “Yes, yes, they are.”
The waiter says, “Oh, your man must be so happy you kept your figure!”
Shonda hesitates and says, “Oh, I don’t have a man–”
The waiter says, “Oh I’m sorry, honey. Single moms are my heroes, I swear. I just meant you look great having popped out three kids. Me and my big mouth–”
Shonda smiles, “No no, I know what you meant. Anyway, I didn’t carry them. My ex did”.
The waiter looks confused for a moment and walks away apologizing and there was an awkward silence at the table. In a few seconds, when she returns to bring everyone’s entrées, the waiter seemed obviously subdued and curt, especially with Shonda.
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The waiter is very friendly and brings Shonda an appetizer on the house. She spots the photos of Shonda’s three teenage kids on her phone’s screensaver and says, “Wow, those yours?”
Shonda laughs and says, “Yes, yes, they are.”
The waiter says, “Oh, your man must be so happy you kept your figure!”
Shonda hesitates and says, “Oh, I don’t have a man–”
The waiter says, “Oh I’m sorry, honey. Single moms are my heroes, I swear. I just meant you look great having popped out three kids. Me and my big mouth–”
Shonda smiles, “No no, I know what you meant. Anyway, I didn’t carry them. My ex did”.
The waiter looks confused for a moment and walks away apologizing and there was an awkward silence at the table. In a few seconds, when she returns to bring everyone’s entrées, the waiter seemed obviously subdued and curt, especially with Shonda.
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- What’s going on?
- What are the IBI?
- What has already been the waiter's panic reactions? What might have sent her into her panic zone?
- What are some of Shonda's possible panic reactions and stretch responses?
- What are some of your possible panic reactions and stretch responses as a person at the table?